You’re Not The Only One: 10 Thoughts moms have But Rarely Say Out Loud
Let’s start here, mama:
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it just me?”—the answer is no.
You are not alone in the quiet thoughts that float through your heart during motherhood. In fact, the very things you might feel afraid to say out loud are often the things that would help another mama breathe a sigh of relief if she heard them, too.
This sacred season brings so much beauty. But it also brings unraveling. Rewiring. Relearning. It brings a storm of emotions that are rarely talked about because, for some reason, we’ve been conditioned to believe that if we feel anything but gratitude and joy, we must be doing it wrong.
Let me say it again for the mama in the back, holding tears behind her eyes and a baby on her hip:
You are not doing it wrong. You are becoming.
And becoming is messy, raw, and holy.
Here are 10 thoughts so many moms have—but rarely say out loud. If even one makes you feel seen, this blog did its job.
1. “I love my baby, but I miss my old life.”
Yes, both can be true. Missing your freedom doesn’t cancel out your love. You’ve just stepped into the most identity-shifting transition of your life. Grief for your past self is not a betrayal—it’s part of the becoming.
2. “I didn’t bond right away—and that scared me.”
Some moms feel an immediate wave of connection. Others don’t. That doesn’t mean something is wrong. Bonding is a relationship, and relationships can take time. Love grows in the ordinary.
3. “Sometimes I fantasize about running away.”
You don’t want to actually run away. You just want a moment where no one needs you. Where you can breathe without being touched, interrupted, or responsible. You’re not bad. You’re burnt out. That deserves care, not shame.
4. “I thought I’d enjoy this more.”
Motherhood is full of moments that don’t feel magical. And guess what? That doesn’t mean you’re not cut out for this. It means you’re in it. Fully. The mundane, the frustrating, the tearful—this is the real thing.
5. “I feel touched out all the time.”
When your body becomes a 24/7 comfort zone for someone else, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed by physical closeness. Your need for autonomy is valid. You are allowed to crave space and still be a beautiful, bonded mother.
6. “I feel guilty for not loving every moment.”
That guilt? It’s fed by a lie that you’re supposed to soak up every second. You’re not. You’re supposed to be human. You’re allowed to love your baby and still hate the fourth wake-up of the night.
7. “I worry I’m not doing enough.”
If that thought crosses your mind, it’s proof that you care deeply. The very act of worrying means your heart is invested. Let that remind you: your love matters more than your perfection.
8. “I don’t recognize myself sometimes.”
Your identity has shifted. That’s not failure—it’s transformation. The version of you before motherhood was beautiful. So is the version you’re becoming.
9. “I wish someone would take care of me.”
Mothering is not meant to be done in isolation. It’s okay to long for someone to hold you, nourish you, see you. That longing is not weakness—it’s human need. And it deserves to be met.
10. “I’m afraid I’m the only one feeling this way.”
You’re not. Not even close. There are thousands of us out here, sitting in quiet corners, scrolling with tears in our eyes, waiting for someone to say, “Me too.” So here I am. Saying it to you.
Mama, the thoughts you carry don’t make you ungrateful.
They make you real.
They make you human.
And they are welcome here.
You are allowed to need help, to question yourself, to break down sometimes, to wish it felt different—and still be a good mom. A loving mom. A chosen-for-this mom.
At Glimmer Birth, we believe that when women feel safe enough to speak the truth, they unlock their power. So let’s keep speaking it.
Let’s raise our voices so no mother feels like she has to whisper her experience.
You’re not broken. You’re birthing a whole new you.
And that’s something sacred.
